Starting counselling is a deeply personal step—and often not an easy one. Whether you’re feeling overwhelmed, disconnected, or simply curious about understanding yourself more, the idea of reaching out for support can bring up a lot of questions.
You’re not alone in that. Many people sit with the idea of starting therapy for weeks, months, even years before taking that first step. This blog is here to gently guide you through some of the things that might be helpful to consider when you’re exploring whether counselling is right for you.
Therapy Is a Space to Explore, Not to Be “Fixed”
Counselling isn’t about being told what to do or trying to “fix” you. It’s a collaborative space where we explore your experiences, beliefs, emotions, and patterns—with compassion and curiosity.
Life is constantly shifting, and therapy can help you navigate that with more clarity and connection.
You Don’t Need to Be in Crisis to Come to Therapy
People often imagine they need to be in a really bad place before they can seek help—but that’s not true. Therapy can be just as valuable for those navigating everyday challenges, wanting to understand themselves more deeply, or feeling like something’s “off” but they can’t quite name it.
It’s okay to come to therapy simply because you're curious or want more balance in your life.
Finding the Right Counsellor Is Personal
There are many different styles of counselling—person-centred, psychodynamic, integrative (like mine), and more. It can feel a bit overwhelming at first.
But what often matters most is the relationship. Do you feel heard, respected, and safe with the person? Do you feel like they get you?
I always offer a free initial call so you can get a sense of how I work and ask any questions you might have—no pressure, just a conversation. Click on this link to enquiry for a free initial call.
It’s Normal to Feel Unsure or Nervous
Starting therapy can bring up all sorts of emotions—anxiety, fear of being judged, or even guilt for focusing on yourself. This is so common. Part of our work together is creating a space where you can bring those feelings, too.
You don’t need to know exactly what to say or what your “goals” are. We can figure that out together, at your pace.
Ask Questions – You’re Allowed To!
You can absolutely ask your therapist questions—about how they work, their training and what sessions might be like. It’s important to find the right fit, and a good therapist will want that too.
Some questions you might ask:
- What’s your approach?
- What kinds of things do you usually work with?
- What happens if I want to stop or take a break?
Final Thoughts
Taking the first step can feel daunting, but you’re not expected to have everything figured out. Therapy is a space to begin exploring at your own pace.
If you're considering counselling and want to find out more, I offer a free initial call where we can talk about what you're looking for and whether I might be the right fit to support you.
Thanks for reading,
Hollie Cunningham
Integrative Counsellor – Glasgow